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Monday, October 13, 2014

10/14/14: Principles and Practice SSA

Principles and Practices in Responding to SSA

Best Practice Standards

Essentially, be very respectful and careful to not ostracize any gay or lesbian clients.  Explore their sexuality with them.  Understand that the church doesn't condone acting on homosexual feelings, but still loves these individuals.  Lots of statements like:
  1. Understand that experiencing SSA or identifying as LGBT does not constitute a mental illness
  2. Strive to understand the unique problems and risks that exist for youth who experience SSA or gender dysphoria, including those who identify as LGBT. 
  3. Understand and be able to differentiate between (1) the qualitative experience of same-sex attraction with varied and complex etiology and varied levels of persistence; (2) the persistence of such feelings in what might be termed an enduring sexual orientation; and (3) a subjective social identity that is adopted or formed around an individual’s sexuality. 
Specific Therpuetic Practices

  • Why are clients in therapy?
  • Help clients write a personal history
  • Instead of "what's wrong with me?", change it to "what's wrong?"
  • Extensive sexual history interviews.  Be cautious of making inferences.  
  • Explore the distinctions between attraction, arousal, aversion, desire, intention, orientation, behavior, and identity in considering sexuality and sexual identity
  • Treat any underlying conditions, or symptoms of the struggle-anxiety, depression, etc.  
Consideration for Spouses:
  • It's NOT the spouse's fault. 
  • Help spouse to not force intimacy, it'll make things worse.
  • Individual therapy for spouses is really helpful.
  • Psychoeducation about SSA
Considerations for Parents and Families
  • Encourage love, empathy, and support.
  • Help families try to understand and be curious about it.  Don't prejudge it.
  • Remember, SSA doesn't constitute one's whole personality.  There are other facets of themselves to still relate to.
  • Don't preach or blame!
  • Explore how families will deal with holidays and big family gatherings with the partner of their SSA child.  
  • Remember, family is a safe base for ALL its members.  

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Sax, 2007-Boys Adrift

Essentially this guy wrote this book (we're reading the intro) about how boys today are so unmotivated when it comes to school or basically anything except their friends and video games.  There's extreme apathy for school and even if they end up going to a 4-year college--only 42% do--most won't graduate and do anything with it.  Girls, on the other hand seem to be pretty motivated on their own.

He has spent 7 years trying to understand the phenomenon and thinks there are some factors that contribute like the way we do school nowadays and such, but overall it's just weird that boys don't want to do school when girls do.  It might be from the media--Tom Sawyer, Ferris Beuller--examples of boys who didn't want to go to school, but they were at least motivated by other things.  Boys today are perfectly content to sit in front of the TV playing video games all day.  It's bizarre.  That's where the article ends.  It was pretty repetitive.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

9/23/14-Wu & Keysar 2007

Sorry this is so incredibly late!  Cultural Genogram took wayy longer than I thought it would.  grr...

The Effect of Culture on Perspective Taking

Abstract:

Perspective taking: Considering the mental states of others to understand their actions.  

Basically, people in collectivist cultures do better at being tuned in with other people and perspective taking as they interact with them than in cultures like the US which are much more independent. 

 Article:

Since actions are ambiguous, we are constantly perspective taking to see if we can figure out what others are thinking or intending.  Only at age 4 do children start to realize that other people have different thoughts and beliefs from them.  

INDEPENDENCE AND INTERDEPENDENCE

Collectivist countries tend to be more interdependent.  Their identity is defined by relationships with others.  Individualistic countries define themselves by their own achievements.  

When remembering events, Chinese people told it from a 3rd party perspective, while Americans told it from a 1st person.  We project emotions onto other people, Chinese project reactions to emotions to other people.  (?)

CULTURE AND PERSPECTIVE TAKING

There were two hypotheses--one claimed Chinese would be worse perspective takers, and one claimed they would be better.  (The first one didn't make logical sense to me, but whatever)  So this study is going to figure out which is right.  
So this was the experiment^^.  The left is the view the "subject" has, and the right is the view the "director" has.  The director will say "Move the block one slot up", and because the subject knows that the director can't see all the blocks he can see (because of the black squares blocking it from view), he should move the one that can be seen by both sides.  This was the test for whether you were taking in the other perspective or not.  

Americans got hung up on the blocks that their director couldn't see, which dramatically slowed down their rate of response.  The Chinese did much better at ignoring the hidden blocks and moving the correct ones.  So it turns out that the Chinese did better at perspective taking because they have been raised in a culture to take in other people's perspectives.  

Monday, September 15, 2014

9/15/14: Gladwell, The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

Ch. 3-The Warren Harding Error: Why we fall for tall, dark, and handsome men

The chapter opens by describing Warren Harding in a shoe-shining shop as a man of amazing proportions, handsome, jet black hair, tall, "roman"esque, with a bronze complexion, tipping generously to imply generosity and friendliness, kindly giving his seat up to the next person to suggest agreeableness of character, etc.  The superman.  The man describing him looked at him and thought, "Wouldn't that man make a great president?"

Now, Harding wasn't particularly intelligent.  He played poker, drank, and loved to chase women.  His speeches were never great because he was vague and ambivalent on important issues.  He didn't participate in the debates on women's suffrage and prohibition when he was in the senate in 1914, which were the two biggest issues.  But he kept advancing in politics because Harry Daugherty (the man in the shoe shop who described him) pushed him to and because as he got older he looked more and more distinguished.  He pushed him to run for the white house in 1920 against Harding's judgment because Daugherty thought he would be a "great-looking president".  He ended up actually getting elected because the Republican Party Bosses needed a candidate they could all agree on.  He served two years as President of the United States and then died of a stroke.  He was arguably one of the worst presidents in American history.  

1.  The Dark Side of Thin-Slicing

Gladwell goes on to explain that our snap judgments about things are usually correct--even if we have nothing to support them.  Once you "thin-slice" things, you can make sure that that judgment was correct.  But in the case of Warren Harding, that snap judgment was the end of the line of thinking, and no one thin-sliced long enough to realize he would be a terrible president.  This is at the root of prejudices today.  

2. Blink in Black and White

Explains the IAT (Implicit Association Test).  It pairs female with career, and male with family and you have to put the right words in the right category and it's hard.  He took the race IAT and found out he has a moderate immediate preference for whites.  He was mortified.  Took it like 4 times, but it didn't change.  This is important because these subconscious feelings are manifest in the way we act around black people.  We might be a little more closed, a little less friendly, etc.  People pick up on this and then act standoffish and the cycle goes on and on.  Same goes for Tall people.  We treat tall people more positively than short people.  Most CEO's of large companies are just short of 6', which is 3 in above the average american male height.  He says being short is as much of a handicap as being a woman or african-american.

3. Taking Care of the Customer

Bob Golomb is a car salesman virutoso, selling about 20 cars a month in his business.  He has to thin slice every customer who comes in to read their dynamic and mirror it to connect on their level.  His biggest rules are take care of the customer!!  He calls them the day after they stop by to thank them for coming, he checks in on people who bought cars to make sure they're satisfied, etc.  He never judges anyone on the basis of their appearance.  He treats everyone who walks in as if they have the same chance of buying a car that day.  

4.  Spotting the Sucker

Ian Ayres conducted a study where he sent white men, white women, black men, and black women who were all dressed the same, groomed equally, equally attractive, etc. into car shops to haggle a price down on the lowest car in the showroom.  It turned out that white males got the best deal and the black males got the worst deal (surprise).  The salesmen try to spot the sucker.  He thinks it's an unconscious association with blacks and women as "suckers", so the salesmen make a split decision and stop thinking after that, even though they hear that these people are college-educated and not suckers at all.  Golomb quotes everyone the same price, regardless of physical appearance, and it works for him.  

5.  Think about Dr. King

If you look at pictures of heroic black people, it will be a lot easier to associate good with blacks on the IAT.  That's how we change our first impressions.  We change the experiences we have that compromise those impressions.  Become familiar with the good in other cultures so you become more comfortable around them.  Change the way we thin-slice!



Tuesday, September 9, 2014

University Statement on Fostering an Enriched Environment

Super short, so it's worth just reading the whole thing.  I'll post it here.  But this is the essence: 

"The University seeks qualified students of various talents and backgrounds, including geographic, educational, cultural, ethnic, and racial, who relate together in such a manner that they are “no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints, and of the household of God.”


University Statement on Fostering an Enriched Environment
Brigham Young University is committed to a campus environment that is inclusive, free from discrimination, and reflects the backgrounds and values of the worldwide LDS Church population. In March 2005, the Board of Trustees approved and implemented the University Statement on Fostering an Enriched Environment that describes, in part, the mission of BYU and the attributes and characteristics of the students it seeks to serve:  

    "The Mission of Brigham Young University – founded, supported, and guided by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints – is to assist individuals in their quest for perfection and eternal life.  That assistance should provide a period of intensive learning in a stimulating setting where a commitment to excellence is expected and the full realization of human potential is pursued."


    To this end, the University seeks qualified students of various talents and backgrounds, including geographic, educational, cultural, ethnic, and racial, who relate together in such a manner that they are “no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints, and of the household of God.”  It is the University’s judgment that providing educational opportunities for a mix of students who share values based on the gospel of Jesus Christ and come from a variety of backgrounds and experiences is an important educational asset to BYU.

Scriptures on -isms

3 Nephi 6-The church was all split up and broken because of the great differences in the people.  Basically this,

"15 Now the cause of this iniquity of the people was this—Satan had great power, unto the stirring up of the people to do all manner of iniquity, and to the puffing them up with pride, tempting them to seek for power, and authority, and riches, and the vain things of the world."

 Jacob 2-Seek for riches before ye seek for the kingdom.   Puffed up and prideful people.  

D & C 38-"For what man among you having twelve sons, and is no respecter of them, and they serve him obediently, and he saith unto the one: Be thou clothed in robes and sit thou here; and to the other: Be thou clothed in rags and sit thou there—and looketh upon his sons and saith I am a just?"

Gordon B. Hinckley, The Need for Greater Kindness, Ensign, May 2006
Overall, President Hinckley testifies that when the blacks got the priesthood he was in the temple and he knew it was from God.  

M. Russell Ballard, Doctrine of Inclusion, Ensign, November 2001
"Surely good neighbors should put forth every effort to understand each other and to be kind to one another regardless of religion, nationality, race, or culture..."  Essentially, don't exclude others and don't teach your children to exclude others.

He quotes Pres. Hinckley, “Each of us is an individual. Each of us is different. There must be respect for those differences. ... We must work harder to build mutual respect, an attitude of forbearance, with tolerance one for another regardless of the doctrines and philosophies which we may espouse. Concerning these you and I may disagree. But we can do so with respect and  civility” (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [1997], 661, 665).

"Of all people on this earth, we should be the most loving, the kindest, and the most tolerant because of that doctrine."--Loved this!